Life Between Mondays and Sundays
On new starts, old lessons, and the bonds that hold us together.
Life Between Mondays and Sundays
On new starts, old lessons, and the bonds that hold us together
Monday – A New Start
On Monday, I began a new job in design. While I’ve worked in design before, this role is in a new industry I haven’t designed for previously. That’s what makes it exciting; it’s fresh territory, and I’ve really been enjoying the experience so far. It’s also a part-time role, which means I’m open to collaborations if you’d like to work with me. I’m honestly looking forward to how this new journey unfolds.
Wednesday – Rethinking Old Methods
My young cousin did something that really offended me. If I had reported him to my dad, he would probably have been disciplined. But the truth is, it’s something he has done countless times before. What’s the point of repeating the same correction methods when nothing changes?
A lot of times, especially in Nigeria, we think being more hardworking or applying more pressure will solve problems. But if you’ve tried the same approach over and over and it still doesn’t work, maybe it’s time to change the method. I don’t yet have the perfect answer, but I know it’s definitely not the usual Nigerian method of correcting bad behaviour. If you’ve tried that multiple times and it doesn’t work, then keeping at it becomes plain wickedness. If it doesn’t work, why keep doing it?
Friday – Protecting the Vulnerable
Towards the end of the week, something worrying happened. My grandma was almost scammed. The fraudsters claimed they were from her bank, saying she had submitted two dates of birth and needed to confirm the correct one. They sent fake text messages, asked her to switch off her phone, and even requested codes.
Thankfully, there was no money in her account because she had withdrawn her pension just two days earlier. But it seems they may have used her details to borrow money in her name. We’ll only know for sure once she goes to the bank on Monday.
What makes this worse is the scammers’ pattern. They often strike on Fridays, so you can’t take any meaningful action until the banks reopen. A simple, though not complete, solution is to immediately call your bank’s customer care line.
This whole incident reminded me how vulnerable older people can be when it comes to technology. They can be as vulnerable as a five-year-old. Please check on your parents, grandparents, and older relatives. Talk to them about online scams, advise them, and guide them. Personally, I’ve started working on creating an NGO aimed at educating people from 45 and above about social media, cybersecurity, and even AI. Talk to me if you are interested.
Saturday – Guiding Without Controlling
On Saturday, I was speaking with someone I occasionally mentor. They wanted to pursue an idea I didn’t initially approve of, and without much thought, I dismissed it. Later, after reflecting, I realised it wasn’t such a bad idea.
It wasn’t something I personally liked, but it also wasn’t that deep. Sometimes, our decisions don’t have to be perfect. What matters is doing something and being willing to adjust along the way.
That moment reminded me that when advising others, especially mentees, it’s important not to impose our personal preferences. We should instead help them refine their chosen path, offering constructive criticism rather than outright disapproval.
Sunday – Weddings and Friendships
The week ended on a joyful note as a brother and senior from LASU is getting married today. My timeline has been filled with posts, memes, videos, and old pictures from schoolmates celebrating him. Times like these show how much genuine friendships and contributions to people’s lives can be appreciated. I sincerely wish him a beautiful and successful married life.
Not long ago, another senior of mine got married as well. He was quite popular back in school, but now lives in the UK. When I saw his wedding pictures, I noticed how few people were present. If that same wedding had happened in Nigeria, at least 70 people from LASU would have shown up without question. Moments like these make me pray deeply for Nigeria to get better, so people don’t have to miss key moments of joy simply because they are abroad.
Final thoughts
Let’s all do our utmost to improve the lives of those around us. Helping one person may feel simple, but you never know how far that act will travel — one could become a thousand, and a thousand could become a million.
If this reflection spoke to you, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Hit reply, or share it with someone who might need it this week.
I love the fact that everyday has its unique event. Life is beautiful, and we must learn to appreciate it.
Turns out one of the best way to appreciate it, is to document it.
Somebody used to tell me I am in my stage of making and correcting my mistakes and I should 'jaiye lo' he is at my back.
Its good that you gave your mentee that space.
Your cousin😂, its normal, he is a growing boy.